Why Low Expectations Cheat Our Church Members

Playing_Settlers_of_CatanLast summer, my parents introduced me and my wife to a European board game called The Settlers of CatanThis award-winning game has become wildly popular, especially among college students.

But Settlers is hard to play. The game is expensive. The rules are complicated. Each game requires more than an hour.

To do well, you must master the art of trade, strategic planning, anticipation of loss, and clever surprise. The game is difficult, but people can’t get enough of it.

For most, the difficulty is the draw.

In recent years, we have seen a number of TV dramas that eschew the traditional formula that leads to a neat resolution by the end of each episode. Instead, shows like Lost and 24 demand that the viewer stick with the program for its entire run.

Plot lines have become complicated, introducing dozens of main characters and a story line that taxes the memory and the stamina of the viewer. And yet, these shows are rated highly each year and have garnered millions of fans.

Is it not odd that the entertainment industry (whether through board games or television shows) is seeing success when it places high demands on the consumer? Fans of Lost talk about how nice it is to watch a show that actually expects something of the audience. Fans of Catan talk about how much more satisfying it is to win such a difficult game.

What can the church learn from this?

Maybe our expectations are too low.

In most churches, membership requires little more than a public declaration of faith and a quick trip through the baptistery. After meeting these requirements, members hear vague notions about being involved in stewardship, discipleship, and service.

But usually, there are no consequences for members who rarely attend or participate in anything. The Rotary will kick you out if you don’t attend meetings or pay your dues, but many churches won’t even communicate specific expectations, much less establish consequences if those expectations are not met.

Perhaps we are cheating church members.

We assume that most church members won’t evangelize, so we’re happy to stick with the very few who understand the mandate.

We assume that most church members will not get involved in a demanding Bible study, so we water down our teaching to appeal to the masses.

We assume that many church members will never tithe or give of their time in service to the community for the glory of our King, so we budget accordingly.

At best, we hope that people will act on our suggestions.

Our churches don’t know what they’re missing:

  • The thrill of leading someone to Christ.
  • The excitement of discovering God within the pages of his Word.
  • The satisfaction of making an impact in the community in the name of Christ.
  • The joy of giving cheerfully to the local church.

There are plenty of simple TV shows out there. There are plenty of simple card games. But winning Uno does not give one the satisfaction that winning Catan does. Watching a formula show is not nearly as memorable as following the storyline of Lost.

The higher the demands, the higher the payoff.

As Christians, we tell a Story much more engaging than any TV show. We live in a fallen world where the stakes are much higher than any board game. Our expectations should be high because of the transformational power of the gospel.

Perhaps we should stop designing worship services, discipleship programs, and youth events for the “average Christian” (aka – the Christian we don’t expect anything out of). Instead, let’s refocus on our church covenants and clearly communicate the expectations for being a disciple in the kingdom of God.

We receive little because we expect little. And church leaders, church members, and especially a lost world – we all miss out because of our low expectations.

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8 Comment(s)

  1. Wow! Congratulation on such a gutsy post. To me you are right on point. My church is probably typical of most in that about 10% of the members contribute 50% of the money, time and talents provided to do God’s work. As you indicate we have set the bar far too low on what it means to be a disciple of Jesus Christ.

    RJ | Nov 10, 2009 | Reply

  2. Totally agree with you. I was actually excited to go to a new church that had a new members class to learn exactly what the church believes and requires of its members. We had to sign a church covenant. We also had to be able to tell about our faith and be able to share the gospel with others.

    Sylvia | Nov 10, 2009 | Reply

  3. I wonder if a “technical” series of classes would work if offered at church. Maybe offer a series of classes on apologetics or hermeneutics and see how members react.

    I would like to see every church member read J.P. Moreland’s Love God With All Your Mind.

    Chuck | Nov 10, 2009 | Reply

  4. Excellent post!

    Justin | Nov 10, 2009 | Reply

  5. Excellent! Bookmarking this illustration to use in our membership class. Thanks, Trevin.

    Dan Sudfeld | Nov 10, 2009 | Reply

  6. While it’s true that the gospel is simple enough that a child can understand and receive it (I’m a sinner in need of a saviour, Jesus, the sinless Son of God, died in my place to pay for my sins and make me right with God), too often we let people stay children in regards to their understanding of the faith.

    While not everyone can be expected to handle seminary-level theological discussions, we whould encourage those who are capable and have inclination to deep thought to apply that to thinking deeply about the things of God.

    Like Ed Stetzer says, if you can learn to order a coffee at Starbucks, you can learn theological terms in church.

    Brian Roden | Nov 10, 2009 | Reply

  7. Brian – funny

    When I go into Starbucks, I still can’t order correctly.

    I still say large or medium and with milk or whatever.

    There needs to be an instruction manual at the door.

    (sorry a little off topic,)
    -Chuck

    Chuck | Nov 10, 2009 | Reply

  8. Donald Miller’s new book adds an interesting perspective to this idea. He says that we are all a part of a story and what makes a story good is that we face conflict willingly because conflict is part of the journey. We must have an end in mind (which Christians do) and we must engage conflict willingly if it furthers our “story”.

    joey | Nov 10, 2009 | Reply

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